Finding Your Natural Body Weight

Paige Schmidt | Healthy Hits the Spot | Finding Your Natural Body Weight

A question I receive from clients who want to eat intuitively and lose weight is: “How did you know when you were at your natural weight?” To start, let me share with you what my IDEAL weight was, and how that’s different than my/our NATURAL weight.

Ideal weight

I remember when I first started dieting, I asked my Mom what her favorite weight was. We’re the same height, and have the same body type and I was clueless about weight-loss at this point, so it was all I could think to do.

My sweet mama… She has always been SO encouraging to me, and would never ever ever mention anything to me about weight. So, to be clear, my Mom didn’t contribute to my struggles whatsoever.

She honestly/innocently told me a number, and I stuck that number in my mind for years.

Being 5’9″, this weight was a HARD weight for me to maintain! Side note: my Mom also couldn’t maintain this weight. It was just a random number she’d remembered.

So, I researched how to lose weight. Figured I “should” count my calories, take herbal pills, etc… And that’s how I’d lose weight.

So, I did. And in three months I had lost A LOT OF WEIGHT and landed myself at my lowest weight ever.

The most shocking part?

I wasn’t satisfied. At all. I’d weigh myself numerous times a day. I’d try new diets. And I’d create my next lower ideal weight. It was never satisfying.

I obsessively exercised. Binged & restricted. I was OBSESSED with calorie counting. It was absurd. And at my lowest weight, I was more unhappy with my body than ever.

I was more concerned with BEING SKINNY over FEELING HEALTHY.

I’d pick “low-cal” options over the healthy & whole options.

I made myself sick, started having panic attacks, and caught every cold that came my way. I was in and out of the doctors office. My moods were everywhere. I judged and measured my worth daily. It was only a “good day” if the scale had dropped.

And then it usually turned bad because a low scale meant a binge later that night.

This was everything that was going on at my IDEAL weight, which, remember, was the weight that I *thought* would make me happiest. 

WRONG.

Natural weight

Onto natural weight…

My body will be finding her natural weight for the rest of my life. AKA, it’ll change. Why? Because I’m a woman, and our bodies change as we grow & age, and that’s OK. Everyone changes over time. It’s the NORM. It’s not something we need to try and control. Let it be.

What I’ve found, is that my natural weight is one that allows me to feel strong and healthy. And by strong, I mean mentally, physically, emotionally…

I don’t catch every cold that comes my way.

I have the capacity to love and focus on things in life that fulfill me. I’m really LIVING my life. I’m not distracted by food.

I feel comfortable.

I intuitively KNOW and can feel that my body is at her most natural weight, because it feels normal. And it’s TOTALLY different than my old weight.

If you were to ask me a number, I wouldn’t know, because I haven’t weighed myself in years. Rather, I just go by how I feel. This is so freeing! 

I held onto the scale for a LONG time. I was afraid that if I stopped measuring my weight, I’d gain. And gain and gain and gain. But really, when you think about it… that’s kinda ridiculous. You don’t NEED a scale to tell you how you feel. You KNOW how you feel.

I now maintain this weight effortlessly, which means that my food choices are not driven by a weight loss or weight maintenance motivation. Rather, my food choices come from a place of wanting to feel good and satisfied (normal, healthy, whole).

Your natural weight is not a cookie cutter formula. It’s more so a place of joy & happiness in your life. It’s living a live that makes you happy and gives you freedom, and it’s allowing your body to decide what she’ll look like from that place. 

From my very real experience, I am so much happier at my natural weight. I am so much happier not obsessing over everything that I do.

At your natural weight, you feel natural. You feel normal with food. You feel healed. You don’t have rules and restrictions guiding your every next move. You’re not in the habit of over eating or under eating. It’s calm. It’s normal.

I would recommend:

  • first letting go of NEEDING to be a certain weight, or size
  • committing to getting to know your body, and what allows her to feel her best
  • trust that your natural weight will follow, and detach yourself from the outcome (what that weight is)

From my experience, picking a number and aiming for it won’t satisfy you. Especially if you haven’t learned to love and appreciate your body – learned to show her compassion regardless of her weight.

We have to love ourselves where we’re at if we want to love ourselves where we’re going. 

Questions? Comments? Let me know. We’re continuing this conversation in Session #10 of Finally Free, and we’re open for enrollment if you’d like to join our family – we’d love to have you be apart of our incredible and encouraging community! (We stop taking new members at 5:00 PM this Monday, so join us this weekend!)

Love, Paige
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  • You mentioned you haven’t weighed yourself in years, but don’t they weigh you during your annual Dr.’s appointment? I know my Dr.’s office does.

    • Hi! Great question. YES. They do. However, when I get on the scale I turn backwards and say “will you please not tell me the number?” and they always say “sure, no problem!” like, they here it more often than we’d think. I hope that helps!

  • Natalie

    Loved your post! This is my first week ditching the scale and it’s so scary but also so amazing! I was wondering if you have done or could do a post on eating and ESPECIALLY exercise while on vacation- how to live in the moment and be okay with not exercising every morning (or possibly any morning at all!) if that’s your routine at home

    • Hi Natalie! So great to hear from you. Good for you, girl! It’s scary, but soooo worth it! Here’s a post I wrote about eating intuitively on vacation: http://www.healthyhitsthespot.com/2015/07/10/how-to-continue-intuitive-eating-while-on-vacation/.

      Regarding exercise on vacation, yep! I can post on that for sure. In short, I would encourage you to think about how you want to feel. Some trips, for example… where you might be sitting a lot, it might feel good to get up and go for a long walk in the evening. Other times, for example, when you’re exploring a bigger city like SF and you’re moving almost the entire time, perhaps what would feel best is to REST when you get a chance. It all comes back to tuning in, and figuring out what is best for you. If your desire is to allow yourself a break from the gym while you’re away, you totally deserve to be able to do that! I’ll try to write about this more in the next two weeks 🙂 XO. Thanks for the comment!

      • Natalie

        Thanks for this response! It’s Israel so I know it will be a very active trip- I like the idea of being in tune w how I’m feeling and CHOOSING rest when I can! Your blog is amazing, thank you for all you do for me and so many others!

        • Wow, Israel, how cool! I hope you have a wonderful time & feel good as you tune in to how you feel and choose to rest when you can. Love that! You’re so welcome Natalie. So glad to have you here! XO